How can I forgive myself for failing my baby?

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    It’s been nearly three months since I lost my (cat) fur baby and the worst of it is I am entirely to blame for his death. I malnourished him for months, all the while thinking I was doing the best for him.He had been very sick last summer, they said it was a gall stone, but, finally, after a lot of treatment we managed to pull him through. The only trouble is after that I became a bit paranoid and started feeding him less wet food (although it was already diet food), especially after he seemed to develop a bit of diarrhea (which may have been me being paranoid again). I was constantly on the phone with the vet, trying new dry food diets, but all the while it never occurred to me to feed him the usual amount of wet food. Eventually, the vet proposed doing some more tests and he was diagnosed with triaditis, we tried a number of treatments, but they didn’t seem to help either. He stopped eating dry food altogether and would eat even less wet food than I was giving him. We were just about to start some acupuncture sessions and, frustrated with his lack of appetite, I thought it might be a good idea to start giving him boiled meat. I checked with the vet, he said it was ok, so I started feeding him boneless chicken breast. He seemed to enjoy it at first and, thinking it was the healthiest food for him (boy, was I wrong), I gave thim that for about two weeks. I tried tempting him with it even when he clearly didn’t want it and only when all else failed did I switch to Hill’s id. In the meantime, he seemed to have less and less of an appetite and was becoming very lethargic, but it never occurred to me to try feeding him more appetizing food, not even when stopped eating altogether. Eventually the vet suggested running some more tests and this time they found he had a severe anaemia and his pancreatitis had gotten worse. They got him on iv, I took him for three blood transfusions, after the third transfusion he started urinating blood and died in my arms during the night. Sorry to bore you with all the details, I just wanted to give you a gist of all the things I feel guilty about (there’s more actually, but these would be the main things). My question is how can I possibly forgive myself after all the stupid mistakes I made, after literally starving him to death? I should have researched more about his illness and the proper diet, I should have quizzed the vet more, I should have acted faster when I saw how lethargic he was becoming. I feel I am a terrible person and I will never forget the look in his eyes as life was draining out of him…



    Although it doesn’t feel that way what you were doing was trying to save him. You didn’t cut the wet food because you didn’t care but because you thought it was hurting him. Strangly enough I have lost my pet nearly 3 months ago. I was feeding her chicken as it was the only way to give her meds. She ended up with a huge bloat. And she couldn’t poop. Chicken is suppose to help making poop more solid. That idea has crossed my mind. That I maybe caused her bloat. And I can relate so much on the looking at your pet dying. I accused myself that I didn’t do enough. That I was careless and didn’t do anything possible. From what you mention you tried really hard to keep him alive. It’s so frustrating to try to feed a pet that doesn’t want to eat and watching. Feeling useless. But the truth is that during that time you do everything you can think of it will help. At the first week I couldn’t think anything else… They say it gets better…

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